Hi there Goddesses,

As I sit right here considering of what I can add to this weblog to assist girls turn out to be the Goddesses they had been meant to be, I consider give up. Give up means letting go of all of the psychological and emotional defenses that one has constructed over the numerous years to guard their hearts from damage.

Since we had been little women, many people confronted massive painful emotions we couldn’t deal with and in flip, we constructed partitions round our hearts and turned our delicate locations laborious. We finally realized to not belief love and as an alternative management the world round us as to not trigger extra ache. We buried our hearts below piles of unhappiness, resentments, disappointments, and anger. We misplaced contact with our female essence as younger girls as a result of it damage an excessive amount of to remain open and have these painful emotions we stuffed down rise and swallow us complete.

“We constructed partitions round our hearts and turned our delicate locations laborious”

As we matured, we wandered out into the world on the lookout for a person to like us via our armor. Whether or not that armor revealed itself as codependent neediness or defensive coldness doesn’t matter. Its aim was to guard us, but it blocked us from the intimacy and connection that we so craved.

We stood earlier than numerous males and challenged and/or silently begged them to assist us open the closed down elements of our tender soul. But, they failed every time as a result of it was by no means their job to do it within the first place. The riddle was that we blamed them, however we had the important thing in our pocket and didn’t even comprehend it.

After many failed relationships or tons of painful moments with the identical man, we felt hopeless and misplaced and uncontrolled. We posed the inquiries to ourselves – “How do I embody this female Goddess vitality that everybody speaks of?” and “How do I give up and move after I really feel like my coronary heart lives in a cage?“ Deep inside, we really feel like slaves to our defensive psychological tales about love and our unresolved feelings of the previous.

“The riddle was that we blamed them, however we had the important thing in our pocket and didn’t even comprehend it”

At the moment, I gently provide some steering as at all times. My recommendation is that you simply start or proceed to uncover your female, delicate coronary heart slowly with love and willingness! You cease on the lookout for your savior exterior of your self and permit the savior to be you. You buckle down, get actual with your self, and unpack all of the previous beliefs you’ve gotten about males, belief, courting, and love. You’re taking inventory of these ideas and also you disengage them relentlessly every hour and every day. (The gentler, softer ideas will come when you make room.)

You be taught to somatically really feel and bear witness to what you by no means may really feel way back. You open your coronary heart, even when it hurts, and let all these previous pains rush up and out of you for good. You sit with this ache till it simmers out of your bones and transmutes again into vitality that’s love, gentle, and pleasure – the true you

“You sit with this ache till it simmers out of your bones”

You’re taking accountability for the best way during which you sabotage actual intimacy. You push your self via discomfort to do and suppose one thing completely different. You give up your self to your personal love and let your self turn out to be the subsequent larger model of your self.

It may be painful and scary to alter however a real Goddess has no alternative. She would somewhat stand within the flames of fireplace than keep caught in a closed world of her personal making that turns her chilly, hopeless, and deadened inside.

Life was meant to really feel good. We had been meant to be female and love and glow and really feel the fantastic thing about surrendering to life and to like.

Life is not going to relaxation till it pushes you to the sting, forcing you to make use of your ache as a transformative instrument to succeed in a better state of being.

“We had been meant to be female and love and glow”

Then you’ll be able to relaxation, calm down, and benefit from the fruits of your labor. Then, you’ll appeal to suitable man who you’ll be able to mesmerize together with your open, delicate coronary heart. That is when you’ll be able to permit man to worship you, give you the results you want, love you, and please you. It’s going to really feel pure, and each fiber of your being will know you deserve it due to how laborious you labored to get right here.

A lot Love,

Malena xoxo