After listening to Pat Allen’s radio present the opposite day I as soon as once more realized how necessary reverse energies are relating to emotional and bodily attraction.  It’s the Ying and the Yang that permits for move, ease and romance to exist in intimate relationships. But, for ladies lately surrendering management to the Masculine can really feel like dying. It requires a deep belief in oneself and a letting go that’s profound. Every day in my relationship I’m challenged with this kind of give up and every time I select to remain in my female vitality I’m rewarded.  Every time I keep in my female vitality, “El Guapo” (my fiancee), steps into his masculine and the vitality dance between us is AMAZING. It is like lighting bolts and fireworks. He provides, protects and cherishes my emotions and I give up management, stay susceptible, sensual and emotionally gentle. These reverse energies coming collectively in a person and girl create magic. For extra understanding, see this nice article I discovered under from this web site – www.gurussay.com.  It is enlightening. 

A lot Love,

Malena Violeta


Masculine vs female Vitality Crash Course

Everybody has a masculine and female vitality inside them. Nevertheless most individuals are naturally on one finish of the spectrum or the opposite. Folks with reverse energies will entice sexually. It’s referred to as sexual polarity. It is the spark and sizzle. 

Specialists say it’s what provides up chemistry and spark and is the muse of romantic love. David Deida means that 80% of males are masculine and 80% of girls are female. It’s necessary to have each properly developed in you, however important to have the ability to fall again into your pure vitality round your romantic companion.

Intercourse and the Metropolis Instance

It is not masculine as in muscle man and female as in a lady in a costume and make-up. Take into consideration Intercourse and the Metropolis. Charlotte could be essentially the most female, then Carrie, then Samantha begins to get extra masculine, and eventually Miranda has essentially the most masculine vitality. All of those profession ladies are properly dressed and love heels. But, you’ll be able to see the vary in female and masculine vitality. It’s also possible to have a look at the lads they entice to see how they get their reverse vitality. Steve who’s extra emotional and fewer profession pushed is drawn to Miranda. Carrie who’s extra female is drawn to the masculine Mr. Massive.

That will help you higher perceive these two energies let’s make an inventory compiled from the masculine/female gurus.  These are clearly over-generalizations, however gives you an concept.

FW=Female Girl MM=Masculine Man




A word about this desk:

This record is somewhat black and white. You don’t have to all the time be female. It’s steered that you simply attempt to be the female extra instances than not in your relationship. Fortunately we’ve got additionally advanced so that girls who’re extra at residence in masculine vitality can construct a beautiful life with a person who’s glad in his female vitality. We now have a selection. Nothing unsuitable there! Personal it woman.


Proof of Masculine and Female Vitality in in the present day’s world:

This actually explains why ladies swoon studying romance novels when a person forcibly takes his girl in his arms. And males’s chest puff up once they kill spiders and sort things.  You possibly can see how we’ve got advanced right into a tradition the place males ask ladies out and pay for dates, and there are extra males heading up corporations, whereas extra ladies work in artwork and baby care.

Deida means that you do what appears like a present to your companion. Often for males taking out trash feels extra like a present than it will to a lady, who would possibly really feel like packing everybody’s lunch is a present.

David Deida explains the evolution of all this in three steps:

1.       I would like a person – he completes me. Bimbo stage and macho man. Additionally suppose 50s housewife. He controls her by her being dependent (financially, bodily drive, emotionally and so on.) There’s little mature love in these relationships, however they are often intense.  

2.       I don’t want a person – Ladies’s motion. We will work and we are able to date a person and cut up the whole lot 50/50: chores, childcare, mortgage funds.  There’s love however each companions are so impartial that there’s little chemistry.

3.       I don’t want a person however he can take me deeper spiritually and developmentally than I can alone. Love and chemistry.

Are you able to inform which part you might be in? Its probably relationships trip by way of all of the phases.


Have you ever rejected your core vitality?

We now have an issue of over creating or rejecting our core energies.


This weblog assumes you’re a female girl at your core and that you simply might need been in man’s world for thus lengthy you actually developed your masculine aspect to carry your individual round a convention desk. You might need had unhealthy experiences or traumas with masculine males or your father and also you’ve needed to downplay your female simply to outlive and really feel secure. It’s also possible to see how we ladies have grow to be extra masculine in courting. At all times being robust and enjoying exhausting to get -not letting males see our susceptible aspect, giving males profession recommendation on dates, and doing all of it on our personal and never asking for assist.

It’s additionally doable you would possibly really have a masculine core. This doesn’t imply it’s important to have a buzz reduce and put on navy boots. You possibly can take the quiz in Pat Allen’s “Attending to I Do” ebook to search out out what your core vitality is if you’re not sure about whether or not you might be naturally masculine or have rejected your female. 


It’s also possible to see we’ve got a number of males who’ve developed their female aspect (or rejected their masculine aspect). They’ve little drive and goal of their life. They wait for ladies to ask them out or textual content them first, or they don’t thoughts in case you maintain all of the logistics of their life and relationship (aka you pursue them). They lean on you for monetary and emotional assist. They might be 30 with no profession prospects or do not appear too embarrassed to not have a automobile or their very own place. (There are additionally naturally female males on the market who don’t match this description and would make great companions for naturally masculine ladies.)

Are you able to see now why a fantastic, profitable profession woman would find yourself attracting a man residing on his buddies sofa? Opposites entice. 

It’s also possible to see how a profitable man might be deeply drawn to a waitress? He isn’t on the lookout for a enterprise companion who by no means wants him or by no means reveals her “weaknesses.”

Do I’ve to play dumb to be female?

It’s not about quitting your job or dumbing all the way down to be extra female. It’s about switching again to your female vitality, if that’s your fundamental vitality, and bringing that into your relationships after work. Specialists additionally say that it’s best to play up these variations at first of the connection however after a when you can cut up a invoice, plan a date for him, or be the one to repair the vehicles if that’s your expertise. 

I look and feel female. How do I do know if I have to be extra female?

  • Are you attracting wimpy losers? Males with no ambition, female males?

  • Do I’ve to be the connection director or solely entice males on the lookout for one thing informal?

  • When a person does one thing for you or provides you one thing do you’re feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed?

  • Do you’re feeling it’s important to pay again a person or return the favor if a person does one thing for you or provides you one thing?

  • Does having a buddies with advantages relationship or a boy toy extra interesting than a relationship?

  • Are you uncomfortable letting a person see you cry?

  • Do the phrases “submissive” “susceptible” “give up” or “emotions” make you uneasy?

  • Do you like being in management?

  • Do you not often do leisurely actions for no actual motive in any respect? Or are you all the time logical, environment friendly, and rational along with your time?

The Good Men Project has a terrific graph that can assist you see what vitality you might be pushing aside by taking a look at what vitality you might be attracting or vice versa.

be Extra Female… 

To get you began, here’s a fast record of actions that deliver out your feminine energy:

Yoga, dance, naps, massages, swimming, getting out in nature, cooking, planting a backyard, portray, knitting, flower arranging, residence adorning/design, stitching, music, strolling, lounging by the pool, make up, trend, getting along with buddies, enjoying with kids, petting an animal, lingerie, bubble baths, singing…

Discover how these items don’t have any actual goal moreover enjoyable, magnificence, and pleasure. You would possibly even really feel extra relaxed after studying that record.  As a society we put financial worth on masculine issues which have a goal and utility. Nevertheless, these female pursuits deliver simply as a lot worth, gentle and love the world however don’t essentially construct or produce one thing tangible.

Rori Raye suggests in her work that it is best to use your “woman vitality” and lean again within the relationship. While you lean again (cease making an attempt to repair, management, direct, do), he has no selection however to step as much as the plate and tackle the “boy vitality.” 

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