Over and over again I am reminded that men are different creatures and react to stress differently than women. They close up and shut down to feel better. While women need to share, connect and sometimes cuddle in order to feel better when they are stressed out. A Goddess knows that in order to create emotional safety for her man, she absolutely MUST give him space when he is stressed or not feeling emotionally or mentally well. A Goddess has her own life and her own ability to conjure up good feelings when her man needs to retreat to his cave. She does not take it personal or go chasing after him. She lets him come back when he is ready. She knows that if she stays centered, he will cherish her for her ability to give him space. Then when he is feeling better (1 hr/1 day/3 days??) he will return and show her more affection and attention. Sometimes a Goddess has to bite her tongue and take care of her own feelings during this time, but she does it with courage and compassion. See below blog from John Gray – www.marsvenus.com

Believe it or not most men crave deep emotional intimacy with a woman. The only thing standing in the way is a man’s ability to feel emotionally safe with his woman and a woman’s ability to keep her heart open and stay vulnerable and still. Men want to connect with women, it’s just that often women are so lost in their fears and self-loathing sabotaging behaviors they leave very little for men to connect with. Therefore, a woman’s work is in her own heart – softening the hard parts and learning to feel the wounded pieces. When a woman turns to herself to do this work she will then feel comfortable staying open and inviting him in. Women are the gatekeepers to the mystical world of love and emotion. We invite men in and let them get lost in this magical world. Men want a woman who is in touch with her emotions on a deep level. He does not want her to never feel anything. He just does not want the cheap drama. There is a big difference. A Enchantress knows this difference and it is part of why she magnetizes men. Men unconsciously need and seek this love and deep emotional connection and once they get a taste of it they will never leave. No matter what is going on in your relationship or marriage turn toward yourself and focus on your feelings and triggers. Breathe and find your personal path to healing and you will then change everything.

Needs a woman to show appreciation for little and big thingsNeeds a woman to respect his thoughts and ideas

Featured Expert:  Rori Raye Are you chasing after a man and don’t even know it? I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man drift away. Every single one of us women instinctively want to go run after a man, grab him and thrown him to the ground, rather than let him get away.

I think it is important to be aware of yourself and really look at how much you discount the feelings of the man in your life. How often do we railroad right over our man’s needs and experiences by making our own more important?  When our feelings get hurt, it is like a certain type of tunnel vision washes over us. This narrow focus only allows us to see what we are feeling and what we need from a man to make our uncomfortable feelings go away. We don’t have the emotional capacity to be compassionate toward his feelings. I think this is very disheartening for a man in a relationship. In fact it is a big determinant in whether he decides to commit to a particular woman. A man does not say it, but he is aware of whether a woman creates a balance in the relationship. Does she offer up space for his feelings and respect his needs or does she make things always and only about herself. This is such an important key in The Art of Loving a Man. A woman who has control over her emotions and fears can allow space for her man and accept his reality which in turn sends him the message of respect (his deep unconscious need). He will feel a deep emotional attraction to this woman for this reason. Yet, if a woman is not in touch with her own feelings and fears and is so full of anxiety and discomfort that she only uses the relationship to temper her wounds he will feel a deep lack of respect and withdraw. Like I say all the time, men are very intuitive and they know very quickly which woman you are.  So the answer always remains the same – do the hard and difficult work of healing your own heart and leave him out of it. He is not your problem. The problem is the unhealed broken energies that get kicked up and surface when he pushes your buttons. He did not create those energies, he was just sent to you to stir them up so you can take on the responsibility to see them and heal them. A person that is doing their own healing work can always make room and space for another persons feelings and experiences and a true Goddess knows how to do this in a soft, sweet and loving way. 

 Written by Christian Carter T ons of women do this one thing. And it must leave them feeling awful… I wonder if you do it too?

Kristina Marchant’s article expresses the essence of “The Way of the Goddess” better then any relationship coach I have encountered. Lately, I have heard too many stories about women who seem to have a great thing flowing with a new man and then suddenly he loses interest and the wheels come undone for these women. If you are one of those women remember the answer is not in what he is doing or thinking. The answer is in how you are being and reacting. Focus on you and an interested man can always turn around and move towards you again. Enjoy article below 🙂 

I just read Rori Raye’s new e-book “Surrender to Love” and it is very good. She gets right to the point when she says “In fact, nothing but the way you relate to him emotionally counts.” This is at the core of being a true Goddess. What I mean by that is that a true Goddess knows her power is in her ability to feel her feelings and provide a beautiful emotional environment for the relationship. This way her man is captivated and constantly seeking refuge and comfort with her. He loves the feeling of warmth and acceptance and he finds himself needing and wanting to be in this space more and more. It is magical for him to be with a woman that knows how to create this.  If your relationship is falling apart the first question you want to ask yourself is “what type of emotional environment am I creating?” Is it a loving, calm, sweet space or is it a battleground full of arrows and swords? This will determine weather he withdraws from you or moves mountains to be closer to you.

I like this blog post (see below) by James Bauer. It speaks to the balance of energies within a Goddess. She is consistent and stable, yet unpredictable and wild. She carries both within her and allows both their time and space. I believe a relationship thrives in an environment with this dynamic. A man needs to know that he can depend on a woman to be emotionally stable so she is a safe harbor for him, yet he is wired for love excitement and thrills.  Therefore, a woman’s passion and wild unpredictable fire  is what keeps him wanting more. Just remember emotional stability is what allows for a woman to be playful and unpredictable. The light hearted energies of a Goddess are a result of the hard work she has done in healing her own wounded heart. It must be authentic.  Making peace with your inner emotional world comes first. Then a real relationship can begin and you can use your enchanting energies to create a romantic loving relationship with a real man.  

By Christian Carter www.catchhimandkeephim.comYou know how it is…A man will seem really excited to be with you, he’ll ask you out, maybe even bring you flowers, call all the time, and then…