If you have not tried Rori Raye’s “Modern Siren” program I would definitely think about purchasing it soon. It’s spot on when it comes to teaching a woman how to be a Goddess. Check it out on her website-  www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com.  She highlights the most important aspect of true intimacy – heart to heart connection. At the end of the day a man is drawn to your emotional energy. The way you make him feel is everything. You must open your heart and draw him in. This is important especially when things get rocky. Instead of turning against him, you open your heart and share what you feel in a non- threatening way. Remember the most difficult thing in Goddess training is to keep your heart open when you feel pain. Yet, this is the road to real and authentic connection. This is what will set you apart from other women he has dated. If you were wondering why I post Rori Raye’s work so often it is because I would not be in this wonderful relationship and place in my life (my wedding is only 4 months away) if it was not for her work and of course a few other great coaches. See her article below.

Hello Wonderful Blog Readers,Today I am posting an article about men withdrawing. This is my weak spot as it is for many of you. In all my studies on men and women in relationships the advice is always the same – when a man withdraws just relax and stay grounded and don’t freak out. You are suppose to give him space so he will return on his own. Now that does not mean you have to be treated poorly, but you do have to give  your man space. Why this is so darn difficult…. I don’t know. I understand it can be difficult in a rocky relationship, but my experience is that it is difficult even in the most secure of relationships. When your man needs a little space is a time when you really learn how much you have grown. You reaction means everything in these moments. I learned this lesson again this weekend. This weekend I learned that I am way too dependent on my man’s energy. This realization knocked me on my as*! Now it’s time to gather myself together and remember that my security and sense of fulfillment first comes from my relationship to myself and my higher power (Spirit, God, Universe etc.)  Knowing this is the most important thing a woman can do for her relationship. It is never about what he is/ or is not doing. It is always about how connected you are to yourself and your ability to feel okay without needing him to make you feel okay. Too often us women think it is our man’s job to make us feel loved and whole 100% of the time. That is the biggest trap we can get ourselves into. With this said, I am dusting myself off, congratulating myself for not creating too much drama, and centering myself again so I can be a wonderful partner and beautiful goddess. Growth is never-ending ladies and sometimes it feels yucky! Yet, a real Goddess never gives up. She goes within and becomes stronger. I found a good article to remind us of all of this on a website called www.elephantjournal.com. See below. 

I told a client today that being a feminine woman may look to others like you are a meek woman, saying yes to whatever your man wants or being okay with all his bad boy behavior, but in fact it is the opposite. Being a real feminine woman takes fierce strength. It take a tremendous amount of willpower and discipline to love with an open heart and learn to express your feelings in a non-threatening way. A feminine woman may seem weak, but she knows exactly what she wants and she knows inside what she will accept. The secret to being a Goddess is that you know the key to a man’s heart is showing him your vulnerability – That my dear friends is not for the weak! Any woman can close her heart and blame and attack her man day in and day out. It is easy to live behind a fortress and point a finger.  A feminine Goddess knows how to manage her emotional triggers and focus on her man’s goodness. She knows the importance of showing respect for a man’s masculine energies and she uses the power of her love to transform him into her knight in shining armor. This is the alchemy of feminine energy.  See the list below I made while thinking about how to coach my clients.

Hello Wonderful Readers,My blog posts are going to be far and few between for the next 6 months due to wedding planning!!!! I never thought I’d get here, but with lots of determination to heal, change in thinking and tons of discipline I will be marrying the love of my life and the hottest most masculine man in the world! Well, at least I think so. With that said, I have decided to share a bit of work by a Relationship Coach/Author that changed my world – Dr. Pat Allen. She is the author of several great books and has a weekly online radio show on L.A. Talk Radio. The excerpt below is from her book, “Staying Married and Loving It – How to get what you want from your man with out asking.” See below. 

I usually do not post a blog more then 1x per week, but since this is February, the month of LOVE, I feel like all you wonderful ladies could use another great article about attracting a romantic, masculine man that will cherish your feelings and make you his priority. Below I have posted an article by the great Relationship Coach, Kristina Marchant. If you have not read her e-book “Red Rose Woman,” I highly suggest you purchase it. It is AMAZING! Studying this e-book and putting Kristina’s principals into practice is one of the main reasons that my fiancee, “El Guapo” can’t get enough of me even though we have been together 5 years. Here is a link to the e-book –  http://www.connectwithhisheart.com/red-rose-woman/

Often times, I wonder why my most popular blog post is on the concept of “Leaning Back.” I would like to think this is because somewhere deep inside our womanly hearts, we know that it is not our job to chase men. I think all women know we were meant to be vulnerable, openhearted, and strong inside so that we can be patient enough to allow a man to pursue us.

I love, love, love this blog post by relationship coach, Rori Raye. She talks about girl and boy energy and how men are drawn to a women who can relax and create space for a man to use his boy energy and pursue her (dating or married). I use these techniques everyday in my heavenly relationship with my amazing fiancee “El Guapo” and it works miracles. If you are troubled with a man that is distancing himself from you read this blog below. 

“When you are just as comfortable in discomfort as you are in comfort, you are FREE” – anonymous  I read this quote the other day and it reminded me of the core foundation to a good relationship with a man. The core foundation to a good relationship with a man is when you are okay and feel good with whatever he does. Maybe he does something magical and romantic that lights up your heart and you feel peace or maybe he is inconsiderate or thoughtless and you still feel peace. This is the key! Of course you can be upset and should voice your feelings to him, (trick is to do it with no blame, or criticism) but peace should be the undercurrent beneath your emotion of anger or sadness. I know this sounds complicated and strange yet, this is what allows a woman to stay centered in her Goddess energy when her man is not meeting her expectations. Staying centered (aka standing still)  with an open heart is what triggers his passion and attraction for you.  A man absolutely goes crazy over a woman who has control over her emotions. It is not easy work. It all begins with your inner emotional world and once you have your inner emotional world under your control you will sparkle and shine and will mesmerize any man. I practice this principle all the time and I promise you it works. 

The more I study relationships and relational dynamics between the Feminine and Masculine the more I realize that wonderful relationships have everything to do with how healed you are inside your own heart and soul. My search for understanding always leads me back to Spirituality. The conflict you have in your relationship is usually old unresolved pain (painbody) and it keeps resurfacing when you get intimate. One author that I have benefited the most from is Eckhart Tolle. He talks about unresolved pain as the painbody. He says that in order to diminsh conflict in your relationship you must gain awareness of your own painbody and when it is activated. I have practiced his teachings and it has made a huge difference for me. See below explanation of how the “painbody” works in relationships. I hope this sparks a light in some of you to begin your own inner journey of awareness. As I always say – Take the focus off of him and put it on you! 

A lot of women ask me what to do about a man that is not committing. I have heard stories about men that will not commit after 1 year, 5 years and even 7 yrs. The advice I give always begins with a woman changing the way she feels about herself and what she feels she is worthy of.  The answer is never about what to do or say to a man to get him to change. Wonderful relationships stem from the beauty and love inside your own heart. This love is then extended to another human and reflected in the world as a beautiful, romantic loving relationship. Remember if you change he changes. So never worry about him and always focus on yourself. See this lengthy, but enlightening article by my most favorite Relationship Coach, Rori Raye. If you have never purchased her programs you must do so now at www.havetherelationshipyouwant.com.