Good day Goddesses,

It’s a brand new yr and I’m enthusiastic about all of the potential for change and progress for us lovely ladies. At the moment, I need to discuss female vulnerability and what that appears like with a masculine man. Let me first say that I imagine some ladies use female vulnerability approach too early and with the improper males. They use it with males that they haven’t fashioned an emotional bond with and with males that aren’t actually exhibiting indicators of sturdy curiosity. That is when it backfires. When it’s used within the improper approach, vulnerability turns into a way to manage males as a lady tries to provide a desired end result. This isn’t actual female vulnerability. That is masculine controlling power, disguised because the Female.

“When it’s used within the improper approach, vulnerability turns into a way to manage males”

A high-value female girl wouldn’t start to point out true vulnerability with a person that was not exhibiting up for her. What do I imply by exhibiting up? I imply – spending his time persistently pursuing her, spending his sources on impressing her, cherishing her emotions, and shifting the connection ahead at an inexpensive tempo. It’s when female vulnerability is used on this context {that a} Goddess unleashes her actual magic.

“It’s when female vulnerability is used on this context {that a} Goddess unleashes her actual magic”

Let’s unpack what true vulnerability appears to be like like. Vulnerability takes a deep inside energy that may solely come about by deep inside work. You need to have the ability to know your inside emotional panorama earlier than with the ability to share it along with your man. In case you are not intimate with your self, you’re simply talking from psychological ideas about issues that hassle you that you simply need to change. Most significantly, to follow female vulnerability, you should be a bit seasoned on the Goddess path. This implies:

• You may have made a dedication to take accountability to your inside emotional state

• You may have begun a diligent follow of getting in contact along with your deep emotions earlier than reacting

• You’ll be able to start to pinpoint the destructive ego tales that set off you

With the entire above issues at play, you’ll be able to follow female vulnerability. Now, let’s go even deeper. Practising true vulnerability appears to be like like:

“This doesn’t really feel good to me and I can really feel it deep in my physique. I’m sharing this with you as my man, to not management you, however to attach my coronary heart to yours. It is advisable do nothing to repair it as a result of I’m fiercely sturdy on the within. Nevertheless, since you’re my masculine man that positive factors such nice pleasure from my happiness, I totally let you cherish my emotions and do what is important to offer, shield, and cherish me. In case you select to not, it’s okay, I understand how to make myself really feel higher and I can’t blame you.”

“This doesn’t really feel good to me and I can really feel it deep in my physique”

Vulnerability is absolutely about sharing the scared and weaker elements of ourselves. It’s about not anticipating a person to repair your points or issues. That stated, a person who cherishes you’ll give it his greatest shot. He’ll do that solely when he is aware of you don’t count on him to. He’ll attempt to race you to the end line that will help you really feel higher.

Let me provide you with a real-life instance. In case you are a daily weblog reader of mine, then you already know about my fantastic, dreamy, masculine husband, El Guapo. At any time when one thing is improper with me, I’m going to my most susceptible place and share it with him. That is what a dialog appears to be like like between us:

Me -“ I really feel ___ and I do know it’s not your accountability to make me really feel higher”

El Guapo – “Sure, I do know however I need to try this for you. My aim in life is to make you cheerful.”

Me – “Awwww… you’re so fantastic, thanks!

This solely works as a result of I at all times take accountability for my inside state. Earlier than I finish, I gives you some extra examples of susceptible expressions:

• I really feel actually scared about your choice to make such an enormous buy. I really feel a rumbling in my abdomen (tummy) once I consider it.

• I really feel insecure whenever you say that. I don’t suppose I need to see that side of myself. It makes me really feel like I’ve a pointy knife in my coronary heart.

• I really feel so overwhelmed with all of it. I’m feeling misplaced and hopeless. I really feel like my physique is drifting out to sea.

• I really feel so offended proper now! I really feel like my entire physique is on fireplace and my fists are fireballs.

“I at all times take accountability for my inside state”

Okay, I do know a few of these sound a bit dramatic, however I can assure you that your man would love you to speak like this as an alternative of the same old blame, assault, criticism, or passive-aggressive shutdown. The bodily sensations I describe within the above examples are tremendous vital. It’s what makes you female. You’ll be able to really feel your emotions in your physique. You’re one with the ebb and circulation of your feelings. You’re related to the universe by means of the portal of your personal physique. That is your energy!!!

“You’re related to the universe by means of the portal of your personal physique”

Keep in mind… true female vulnerability is about being related to your inside self after which with the ability to share that with out anticipating an exterior change. That is when actual intimacy will be shared between two individuals.

A lot love,

Malena xoxo