The opposite day I did one thing totally different once I was triggered. I OPENED up as an alternative of closing my coronary heart! I used to be harm and a bit indignant with my husband ( El Guapo) and I needed to RESIST and defend myself. As an alternative, I pushed previous my resistance and used my will energy to remain open energetically. In flip, this helped me to not interact in the identical outdated fearful patterns of conduct that I all the time use when I’m triggered.

So there I used to be painfully open and on the lookout for a brand new conduct to match this vulnerability. Fortunately, I heard a mushy voice whispering in my thoughts. It mentioned, “female vitality is soothing, like a heat blanket.” With this, I sat on the mattress and softly touched El Guapo on the shoulder and caressed his neck. He instantly responded by turning towards me and opening up about how troublesome it’s to cope with his stress.

“Female vitality is soothing, like a heat blanket”

There it was….the CONNECTION as an alternative of the continued battle!! This must be the aim of all communication in a relationship. Every part modified on this second. It was now not about what I used to be not getting from him. It now grew to become extra about what I may give to him and the connection. I used to be conscious of my set off. With a breath of fireside I dispelled its detrimental pressure. I grew to become out there and of service to like as an alternative of a blind servant to my fearful energies. Oh, how refreshing it was. It felt liberating! It felt like the last word expression of female vitality – heat, softness, compassion and loving communication.

“I grew to become out there and of service to like”

Let me say that the swap from closing down and defending your self to opening your coronary heart and giving love could be very troublesome. The gravitational pull of detrimental vitality could be very robust. You won’t be able to battle this pull you probably have not processed a few of your triggered vitality. That’s the reason all success in love begins inside you. I really feel like a damaged file, however I can’t stress this level sufficient. You possibly can attempt to change your self by meditating, considering positively, maintaining a healthy diet or every other manner. But, if you don’t dissolve your outdated emotional ache you’ll all the time act out in the identical manner once you get upset together with your man. Since I’ve spent a few years dissolving my outdated vitality, I used to be out there that day to supply my masculine man my mushy loving vitality as an alternative of extra battle. At that second I may see how his anger dissolved and he grew to become enlivened by my love. Our battle melted right away and our hearts linked. It was magic! Now it’s your flip to attempt it! Be courageous. 💕

A lot Love,

Malena xoxo

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