In a relationship, there is a shift we all must eventually make if we are going to experience real love and intimacy. It is the shift from victim to compassionate partner. This is because real love requires mercy toward one another. Real love knows the other person is trying their best with what they know. Real love does not condemn, it inspires. That is why a Goddess has patience and compassion for her lover. She deeply understands her man and gives him what he needs, knowing the rewards will be worthwhile.  For us women that is not always easy.  A good place to begin is by learning about men and how they function mentally and emotionally. With that said, I have decided to post an article by relationship author John Gray.  If you can understand his idea of “The Rubber Band Man” and use it when needed, your man will think you are the most AMAZING WOMAN in the world. Your man will think you are a woman that gets him and a woman he does not want to live without. Check out the article below. It is fascinating.

1. A man needs to feel emotionally safe with a woman. A man needs a woman who is in control of her emotions. He needs to know that a woman can calmly and lovingly express her pains and frustrations.  He needs a woman who does not depend on a man to fulfill her or make her happy.

“Enchantresses aren’t concerned with doing anything for a man or giving him anything.  They are just concerned with living in the moment, finding happiness and poetry in everyday life and tenderly, intimately sharing that bliss with men who appreciate their “light”.

THE MOST IMPORTANT WORK IS INSIDE YOUR OWN HEART     As I have mentioned before on this blog, one relationship coach that has changed my life is Christian Carter. His programs are amazing and well worth the money. The first time I read his e-book, Catch Him and Keep Him, I cringed when I saw all the ways I was pushing men and love away. I always pointed the finger outside myself, blaming men and how incompetent they were, but Christian Carter’s work helped me turn the focus inward. After reading his e-book  I was forced to look at the ways I contributed to the breakdown of my relationships. I now believe inner work for a woman is the most important goal and the only thing that will produce positive change in her love life. I learned it is not your responsibility to change what another person is doing or not doing. It is your responsibility to see what part you play, find out what walls and defenses you have and to learn your own lessons. So with that said, I am reprinting a portion of Christian’s e-book here. If you like it check out his website at – www.catchhimandkeephim.com. 

Update from June 9th post: I received a text this morning from El Guapo,          El Guapo – “Do you think I can see you again tonight”