No one would believe me if I told them how amazing my marriage and relationship is. Sometimes, it even surprises me! I mean I have suffered in relationships since I was 15 yrs old. When I was 16 yrs old, I read a fascinating book entitled “Codependent No More.” It described me in each chapter with every detail. Then, after a failed marriage (2012), I read about being a “Love Addict” and that was a mean wake up call. So basically, I sucked in relationships and always found myself with a man that triggered all my insecurities. Years of therapy didn’t help much and asking a man to not do the things that triggered me didn’t work either. Then, I came across 2 things that created a magical formula for transformation. Becoming aware of the ego-mind and its relentless negativity and the feminine and masculine energy dance. With these tools, I have created a romance reserved for fairy tale novels. My biggest tool by far is my feminine energy. It is such a powerful change agent. What do I mean by using my feminine energy? Let me simplify this…

Hello Beautiful Goddesses!I have been very busy coaching clients and loving every minute of it. Each one of my clients are so unique and I love watching them grow and push themselves to heal old patterns and behaviors. I have been reminded lately that healing is a process of ups and downs and back and forths. It definitely is not a linear process. This can be a bit discouraging for some women. After a big trigger and a great emotional-energetic release, a woman may feel on top of the world only to be triggered again a few days later. This often makes a woman feel that her hard work is not paying off, but my job is to remind her it is all part of the process. I also remind women that it is in these times that she must build her awareness and emotional release feeling muscles and keep pressing forward.

The other day I did something different when I was triggered. I OPENED up instead of closing my heart! I was hurt and a bit angry with my husband ( El Guapo) and I wanted to RESIST and defend myself. Instead, I pushed past my resistance and used my will power to stay open energetically. In turn, this helped me to not engage in the same old fearful patterns of behavior that I always use when I am triggered.

One of the greatest teachers in my healing journey to love and happiness has been Abraham Hicks! For those of you who know Abraham’s teachings, my fondness for the them will resonate deeply with you. For those that do not know of Abraham, let me try to explain. Abraham is a spirit guide/universal intelligence that is channeled through a woman named Esther Hicks. I know this might sound a bit strange, but then again, we are living in really strange times right now (lol)! I see it this way – the proof of channeling and supernatural experiences is not worth trying to figure out. For me, what is important is the message and Abraham has a wonderful message!

Hello Beautiful Goddesses,Well, I will start off with an update on El Guapo (husband). He still is as dreamy and as fabulous as ever!! He is back home for good and working hard. He absolutely killed it (in a good way) on Valentine’s day and my birthday. I have never felt so romanced, loved, special, and wanted. I got chocolates, a card with a written heartfelt declaration of love, beautiful roses delivered, jewelry, Airpod pros, a surprise romantic dinner, lots of kisses etc.. and a shopping spree!!! Seriously??? It was AMAZING!!! With that said, there is not one day that goes by that I do not thank him for his hard work and sweet loving gestures. This interplay of energy we have is how I know living from your feminine energy will bring you the relationship of your dreams.

Hello Lovely Goddess Friends,First, let me say I hope everyone is doing okay and feeling safe. This virus and all the fear and changes are mentally and emotionally taking a toll on us all. This is especially true if you are a feminine woman who feels deeply. If you are feeling scared and anxious I recommend you go into your body and feel those feelings with focus and awareness. Then when possible let them go returning yourself to the present moment with an open heart and giving spirit. The world and its people need unity and loving energy to heal. I know most of us are locked in our homes and we feel helpless, but remember we have the power to love. Love those who you are with and reach out to those in need. I pray that this passes quickly so we can move on and live differently now that we realize how precious life and freedom is. While you are home it is always a good thing to continue your Goddess work. Therefore, I have some new info. to share.

Hello Beautiful Goddess!Well, the tornado of transformation has swept me up again. The universe/life/God has plans and wants me to heal EVERYTHING like now! I have not been blogging much for the last few months because I have been busy putting all my blog advice to work. The good news is that my advice works! Thank God! I would never want to advise my blog readers to do something that does not work or benefit their relationship. Without getting into too many personal details, I have been asked by life to Surrender and Trust my man, El Guapo, and life in general. Has it been easy? Absolutely not! In fact, I have found myself on a number of occasions making pleas to the universe to lighten up my enlightenment training. I really feel like life is supposed to feel good and flow, and I am determined to figure it out. Since our intimate relationships are where most of our pain comes from, I always begin there first.

Valentine’s Day is just a few days away and I have thought long and hard about what to write. I realized there is really only one thing to say – You have to treat yourself the way you want to be treated. If you are feeling lonely, hopeless, neglected or sad on this day I offer you a simple practice – wake up on Valentine’s Day and deeply surrender to the feeling of disappointment or sadness. Find where in your body it hurts (heart, chest or stomach) and lean into the pain. Then relax, lean in deeper, take a deep breathe and LET GO!!!! Let go of the deep sadness first, then let go of any expectation you have of someone else doing something for you. That doesn’t mean you let go of your desire for romance, but it does mean you release your NEED for someone on this day to make you feel whole and happy. You must be whole and happy first for great love and romance to find you.

Here are a few more thoughts I had about Valentine’s Day for all you Goddesses of Love!Much Love,Malena💕

Hello beautiful Goddesses,I just wanted to share an email I sent a client after she expressed her concern that her man was pulling away. I dont think I need to share her particular details because at the end of the day my guidance can be used for most situations. Hope this touches someone who needd to hear these words. See below

Hello Goddesses, The Art of Loving A Man is now on Instagram!Please go check it out and follow! I will be posting unique content to my Instagram and Facebook pages so make sure to give them a follow. 💕